Thursday, 18 June 2020

How To Understand Us Dour, Reticent, Surly, Matter of Fact, Few-Word Yorkshire Folk

(Picture Credit - Yorks Man by Alamy)

Here are some translations that might help -

Yorkie: "It's\that's okay" = "That's utterly and stupendously wonderful, my good man. A complete earthquake of a shock - shattering the space-time continuum and rendering the universe a pile of rubble. Really appreciate your kind generosity!"

Yorkie: "I agree" = "Yes, I have studied your thesis for hours. Didn't like to reply straight away - kept it on the back burner so I could rumminate through your wise and comprehensive thoughts. And yes, your views are sheer genius and spot on once again."

Yorkie: "On Ilkla moer bah tat" = "strolling on the historic slopes of Ilkley Moor in God's Own County, though suffering from those icy northern winds because I forgot to wear my hat."

However, sometimes this same Yorkshire person may mean something quite different (and there's the conundrum that baffles the rest of the world), eg they might mean....

Yorkie: "It's\that's okay" = it's\that's okay"...

Or even...

Yorkie: "I agree" = "I agree" or "Wot's all this? I better just agree!"

LOL

Paul Butters

© PB 18\6\2020.

Monday, 20 April 2020

Careers Work


(Picture Credit - Career Contessa)

On 4th January 1982 I began working at Grimsby Careers Office, as a Careers Officer. That “office” later became “Centre” and I became a “Careers Adviser”, followed by a “Connexions Personal Adviser (Careers)”. I eventually took early retirement, last working in October 2006. Overall I much enjoyed my career as a Careers Adviser or whatever. Most of my work was with 13-18 year olds, most of whom were great to engage with. I enjoyed all those interviews, though wasn’t too keen on the paperwork and “computing” that followed.

Actually I would now say that I was a “Careers WORKER” for those 24 years. My old colleague Neil Hewitt thought that smacked of “Social Worker”, but I still prefer this title. I would also describe myself as a retired “Careers Counsellor”. Most of my interviewing technique was a form of counselling.

In 1981 I did the “Trent” Careers Diploma. Boss John Malkin (and the other tutors) was proud of his programme, especially as “an accredited counselling course”. There was much “unconditional positive regard”, establishing expectations, contracting, feeding back, and so forth. Some students adopted “The Trent Challenge” in interviews, but I personally went for the non-directive counselling approach. I loved the client-centred Carl Rogers stuff. The term “Helping Interview” was spot on for me.

But Trent was also a “Careers Guidance” course. Indeed John Malkin was heavily involved in our national “Institute of Careers Guidance”. And I was employed to give careers guidance and advice etc. Which now disturbs me a little, here with my retirement slippers on.

Why disturbed? Because the very word “Guidance” implies that the client might even be a “patient”: in need of being guided onto the “Correct Path”. Seen this way, the interview becomes a tool for “diagnosis” and “treatment”. That could be quite sinister.

Have been reading a little about Rogers etc. Apparently “Person-Centred Counselling”, though very influential in the field, eventually became “marginalised” because it didn’t address the patient’s “issues” directly enough. So I assume PCC was largely replaced by such as CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy).

To quote from a student essay on the subject:

“‘The person centred approach does not adopt the medical model to understanding psychopathology and does not make the assumption than there are specific disorders requiring treatment. Insofar as practitioners in psychology and psychiatry do make this assumption, we can see why the person centred approach has become marginalised. Some person centred practitioners have indeed revelled in living on the edges, taking great satisfaction in the radical nature of the paradigm.’ (Joseph and Worsley, 2005, pg1).”

(I tidied it up a bit).   

Incidentally a “therapy” I do like is “Solution-Focussed Brief Therapy”. This is all about focussing on the Positives and taking things from there. Again, this ties in nicely with the “Helping Interview”. The downside of the Solution-Focussed approach is that it Ignores….The Down Side!!! On balance though, I think it works well.

I always liked my interviews to be happy, positive, even uplifting events. Plenty of smiles and even laughter. But still doing “The Job”.

So I suppose what I am now questioning, on reflection, is: What Was The Job? My Work Managers kept pushing “Advice” and “Guidance”. They simply wanted to reduce the NEETS (Not in Employment and Training). They ordered us to “ZONK” young people – take them off benefits – if they refused to go on government training schemes which they saw as “Slave Labour”.

It was always, “Do as the Government says”. Indeed we were classed as “Local Government” most years and what is left of us still is. Us being “The Careers Service”… But now it’s a Tory Government which presides upon a sea of Zero-hour Contracts. So where exactly are young people being “Guided” to exactly???

Incidentally, since I retired, the Careers Service was returned from Connexions to local government control. But earlier “Humberside County Council” was abolished and Grimsby\Cleethorpes Area became “North East Lincolnshire Council”. Grimsby Careers Centre was sold off and I understand that the service is now run from a place down Freeman Street called “The Skills Hub”.

But getting back to “Careers Guidance” as such… I think it should be retitled “Career Development”! (Or Careers Development if you prefer). After all, you need to make career-decisions, be self-aware, research the information etc. in order to Develop your Career. It’s all about “getting on” in an occupation that suits you. And not about leading you like a lamb to the proverbial “slaughter”.

So I’m glad I stuck to my “Person-Centred-Helping-Interviewing” and my “Positive-Focussed” Careers-Development Work. I recommend that present and future Careers Workers do likewise. Amen.

Paul Butters

© PB 20\4\2020.

Saturday, 11 January 2020

On Good Health



(Picture Credit - Newcastle Green Festival)

(From my Personal Journal)


What is Life all about? Well, first and foremost it is about Staying Alive. Simple as that.

Survival is initially about Security of course. But then it’s about Health. Which in turn comes from good Nutrition and Exercise.

As an obese Type 2 Diabetic I need to Avoid too much Refined Sugar, Carbohydrate, Alcohol etc. I particularly must Avoid Crisps, bread and excessive potatoes. Calorie Control is required. Limited Portions. But plenty of vegetables, salads, fibre, fruit, healthy oils and so forth.

I also need to spend much more time on my feet and be more active. More walking, more lounge-workouts. Maybe get back to running and jogging and even swimming. Carry on with that invaluable table tennis of course.

In short, I should feel like I am in my own “Army”: dedicated not to war but to promoting “Wellbeing”, starting with myself. I must help others too of course. And furthermore, be a soldier of Conservation: fighting for Mother Nature. But that’s another story, or two. Nuff Said.

Paul Butters

© PB 11\1\20.

Tuesday, 22 October 2019

What I Put on Facebook


Until now I have held off from saying that like nearly 70% of NE Lincs I voted LEAVE. If we had lost the referendum I would have accepted it and moved on. Clearly Remainers do not think that way. They are determined to stay in a EU that seeks to become a "Super-Nation" that will blot out the historical national identities. @&%%er the will of the people they say. "We are right. Joe Public is misguided". Nobody mentioned "A Deal\Treaty" during the referendum campaign. Yet now only Farage will accept No Deal - "A Clean Break Brexit". Surely we can establish our own worker's rights etc. And rejoin our Commonwealth and the Rest of the World in a Free Trade future. Rant over.

Paul Butters

(C) PB 22\10\2019. 

(There, I've "Come Out")! 

Friday, 23 August 2019

Anxiety, Fear, Anger and Stress


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Today I posted the following on Facebook and Twitter (the latter a shortened version):

“In the past I've been annoyed at myself for feeling anxious, afraid, angry & stressed. On reflection I should have "listened" to these feelings and responded accordingly. We may see them as negatives but they have a good purpose: to keep us safe and ready for any challenges we may have to face.”

Before writing this I was influenced by the article on NPR site called “Kelly McGonical: Can We Reframe The Way We Think About Stress?” Essentially Kelly put a new positive spin on stress. And she claimed that people who see stress in a golden light (my wording) do lots better than those who do not. Simples.

Of course, as regards “ignoring my anxiety” is concerned, the obvious personal example of that was when I started a particular job in my early twenties. My early anxiety was a warning – and an accurate one – that I had found myself in the wrong place during the wrong thing. Deep down I saw no future in that role and knew that my decision to enter that profession was quite bizarre (to be frank). Maybe now I might be able to meet such a challenge, but that’s after a further 39 years of life-experience! So yes that Anxiety etc. was more than justified. Still, you live and learn.

Anger and “Stress” are just as important as Anxiety etc. of course. Indeed without these emotions our ancestors would not have survived. And they are just as important today. We may think that we are more sophisticated now, but the truth is we still live in a jungle. So when we get worried and scared, or blazing with fury, we should be glad that we still have the emotional capacity to defend ourselves and fight back. Nuff Said. Out.

Paul Butters

© PB 23\8\2019.

Tuesday, 9 April 2019

What's Right



Here is an extract from an email I sent today to my friend Simon Hudson:

“As you say, the world is evil, corrupt, war-torn, full of crime and drugs, poverty and so on. But what can we do about it? It's People!!! How do we change them? Before the advent of modern science, the powers that be could SCARE them into submission with RELIGIOUS BELIEFS of Hell and "bottomless perdition" (Milton) etc. But that has gone now. Just about.

All I can suggest is that we need to RE-EDUCATE them somehow. Get rid of this selfish, dog eat dog, MONEY driven, go getter "Culture" or whatever and replace it with "Lifism", "Humanism", compassion, Love.... I feel more poems coming on!

Maybe we need a "World Government" to sort out poverty, war, crime etc. - but it will 
have to be BENEVOLENT, and that's a hard thing to establish. The Russian Communists etc. tried this but somehow the inner "Capitalists" took over (as depicted by George Orwell in "Animal Farm" and then taken further in "!984").

So how do we change those evil Mindsets??? That is the question. "Educate" somehow. But how???

My "Emotional Discipline" thoughts are about AVOIDING feeling Fear, Anger, Hate and other Negative Emotions. Such feelings come from the primitive RATS within us. We are geared up to survive PHYSICAL threats from predators or enemies, but modern life is about more sophisticated "threats" so those olde emotions are dysfunctional now. Funny enough "rats" feature in 1984! We have to be cool and rational nowadays...”

Nuff Said.

Paul Butters

© PB 9\4\2019.